Here’s the gentle test: if you think about a future without him, and you feel mostly relief, that’s a red flag. But if you think about a future without him, and you feel a pang of loss—even without the sex—then you’re just in a rough patch. The attraction might be hiding under a pile of routine.
Try this: go on a date where you pretend you just met. Wear something that makes you feel hot. Watch him do something he’s great at. Sometimes, you have to reboot the system. And if after all that, you still feel like you’re living with a platonic roommate? That’s not failure. That’s just information. And you get to decide what to do with it.
In the meantime, don’t spiral. Buy yourself some nice socks, laugh at his memes, and know that everyone has stared at their partner across the dinner table and thought, “Huh. This is weird.” You’re not broken. You’re just… in the quiet chapter.
