Stop asking, “What do you do?” Instead, try: “What’s a movie, book, or song that changed how you see the world?” This isn’t just a swap of favorites. It’s an invitation to share a story about a moment that shifted their perspective.
Compare it to the difference between reading a person’s bio and watching the trailer for their inner life. Which one makes you lean in? Exactly.
Bonus: You might find you both secretly cried over the same Pixar film. That’s instant connection fuel.
What About the “Little” Things?
Here’s a sneaky good one: “What’s something you believed as a kid that turned out to be totally false?” It’s playful, but it reveals a lot—like how they learn or how they handle being wrong.
Think of it as a time machine. You get to visit their younger self and see the world through their old eyes, even for a second. Isn’t that fascinating?
